What do I say to someone who has cancer?

It’s a topic. Anyone that has shared a cancer diagnosis knows that we get together with our favorite beverage and compare the stupid, inconsiderate things we think people are saying to us. No one wants a membership to the Cancer Club, or to sit around and vent regarding oblivious, mean-well assholes! Yikes, but it unfortunately is a very delicate reality. It’s a true downer to the already nervous, riddled with anxiety brain of a person living with cancer. I say living because we ARE living. We are not vacant, immune, or a foreign object, we are still HERE, living. People certainly do not mean to offend someone with cancer; they genuinely have concerns, anguish and anxiety parallel to ours. Luckily, there are amazing books out there to help assist in this exact situation. Here are just a few to check out.



Lori Hope is the author of Help me live, 20 Things people with Cancer want you to know.


Jimmie C. Holland MD and Sheldon Lewis share their insights on what they have discovered from those facing a life-threatening illness and what helps them along the way.


How to become a friend to a friend who is sick is a book written by survivor and acclaimed author Letty Cottin Progrebin.